So, as I've said, we both pay out on child support, with my income, its auto-matically deducted from my Social Security; but since the county he's battling it in put a class D non-support child support felony on his record, he can't even get hired on at Walmart.....so, there's been no payments since last fall, when he self-employed as a lawn care giver. He was subcontracted by an out of state company to care for lawns that were with foreclosed homes. (And by the way, the best way to go for those who are behind, & are needing to get caught up, IS to create a self-employed job, or subcontract for another company. That way, legally, your still working, & with subcontracting, your payments CAN be deducted)! However, due to the drought last Summer & Fall, we didn't have very many lawns...then the car broke down in January, and it all went down hill from there. Instead of being given lemons so we can make lemon aid this year, its been rotten lemons. I had found 2 programs who helped low income families receive vehicles, but 1 was so low on funding, they could only help within a given radius of their city, & the other was more promising, however, nearly an hour for a 1 way trip.....it helps people (men & women), who are on probation or parole earn a vehicle by helping them get work with their felony record. Its at the career center, so you have to follow their guidelines (its well worth looking into your county, or surrounding counties, if your in a similar situation as we are). Only issue, we can't make it over there...its the end of Girl Scout season, but the start of school, so our family isn't able to come 20 minutes out to get us, drive another 30 to get there, & do it all over again to take us home.....plus, we have a 9 month old dog who really doesn't like to be left alone, & that'd be an all day trip.
As of right now, because he hasn't been able to get work due to the felony, and car breaking down (no the court system doesn't care about that, all they care about is you working), he's going to jail on the 8th of August for as many as 120 days.....4 months.....it'll be a LONG 4 months...that's 6 weekends with my girl's, & no step-dad. My 11 year old loves him as much as her bio-dad, my 10 year old does too (she has a hard time showing it, but a friend of mine brought up an opinion on her behavior, she thinks 10y/o's attitude problem recently towards husband was simply because she's afraid we're going to break up and he'll leave, the same way I left their dad....this 4 months is going to take such a tole on her....I'm petrified)! So, I've been looking at craft sites lately, on simple things we can do together; they're with me Friday evening at 6pm-Sunday at 6pm, so we basically have 2 full days to do things. Crafting is much cheaper then baking, and cooler, so this week my chore is to be writing out a list of things we can do every weekend to help keep minds busy. But, the worst, is at night, when I'm alone....I did it already this year for 15 days. I'm just really crossing fingers, and praying hard that after this 4 months he can find work so I don't loose 4 years of our marriage, because that'd be the next step....after that, I'm not sure. I also happen to have the 1rst weekend of August with my girls, the same evening he goes to jail....so, today, when my youngest gets picked up, will be the last time they see him! My oldest will be with their dad when he picks her up. We're going to have to sit & talk with her and let her know, its not her fault he's leaving for a short time, its just something he has to take care of because he made a mistake & didn't pay his bill. I'm debating on emailing my oldest whats going on, because I know she'll cry, and the last thing I want is her dad getting mad about her crying over her "step"-dad on the way to his house......but, that'll wait until later.
As of right now, because he hasn't been able to get work due to the felony, and car breaking down (no the court system doesn't care about that, all they care about is you working), he's going to jail on the 8th of August for as many as 120 days.....4 months.....it'll be a LONG 4 months...that's 6 weekends with my girl's, & no step-dad. My 11 year old loves him as much as her bio-dad, my 10 year old does too (she has a hard time showing it, but a friend of mine brought up an opinion on her behavior, she thinks 10y/o's attitude problem recently towards husband was simply because she's afraid we're going to break up and he'll leave, the same way I left their dad....this 4 months is going to take such a tole on her....I'm petrified)! So, I've been looking at craft sites lately, on simple things we can do together; they're with me Friday evening at 6pm-Sunday at 6pm, so we basically have 2 full days to do things. Crafting is much cheaper then baking, and cooler, so this week my chore is to be writing out a list of things we can do every weekend to help keep minds busy. But, the worst, is at night, when I'm alone....I did it already this year for 15 days. I'm just really crossing fingers, and praying hard that after this 4 months he can find work so I don't loose 4 years of our marriage, because that'd be the next step....after that, I'm not sure. I also happen to have the 1rst weekend of August with my girls, the same evening he goes to jail....so, today, when my youngest gets picked up, will be the last time they see him! My oldest will be with their dad when he picks her up. We're going to have to sit & talk with her and let her know, its not her fault he's leaving for a short time, its just something he has to take care of because he made a mistake & didn't pay his bill. I'm debating on emailing my oldest whats going on, because I know she'll cry, and the last thing I want is her dad getting mad about her crying over her "step"-dad on the way to his house......but, that'll wait until later.
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